An unexpected U-turn in Life....

For many years in my marriage, I heard from my wife how I was not plugging into our marriage enough. There would be nights I would come home and be so tired that I would just want to roll over and go to sleep, when I'm sure my wife wanted something more from me that night, such as compassion, and affection. I found myself at that time, to be more worried about what I wanted, such as video games, and anything that brought me intertainment, than being there for my wife when she needed me most. Usually I was there for my wife, but only at the times when I wanted to be. I've always loved being effectionate, but in the past, I chose the times to do just that around fulfilling my addiction, which mostly was to video games.
As a result of many years of being turned off to my Wife's needs, and worrying more about my own, she had enough and unplugged herself, which lead to a close encouter to divorce court for us a few months ago. Sadly, it took almost losing her to realize how much I needed her, and truly loved her. For far too long I was taking advantage of the fact that she would always be there for me, and when I wanted her, I would get what I wanted...
Well, since that ruff spot in our marriage, we have been slowly rebuilding our relationship to where it was before I became addicted to something other than her love. Guess I just have an addictive nature. Now I find myself addicted to her, and loving her more than I can stand sometimes. When I'm on the road, which is way too much, I find myself missing her more now than I ever did in the past! I guess a lot of that is due to the fact that I got to see what life would be like without her, and I didn't like it. I use to go out on the road, and I did miss her, but I always knew she would be there when I got home, and didn't think about not having her in my life then. But now, ??? I find myself constantly worried that I'm not good enough to keep her happy. And with all the problems we are having in just about every aspect of our live's, I'm worried that one day she will just be done with me and want to move on...
Part of this new worry is due to the U-turn in our live's. Before I was the one unplugged, and now she is the one unplugged. I mean, she love's me, she tells me all the right things, and is affectionate at times, but when I need her most, she just rolls over and goes to sleep, much like I did before. I realize she is been under a lot of stress with starting her new school, and is tired from putting in long days from babysitting and going to school at night, but for some reason, I can't help from thinking there is more to this unplugging she has done in our marriage.
I try to say my feelings, but they always come out wrong, and are misinterpreted as me just wanting sex, or something like that, but in reality, It's more about me wanting to be wanted again. Before she wanted me, and I knew it, and it gave me security in our relationship. I know, selfish of me to only worry about my security then, when all kinds of things must of been going through her head at those times, on to why I was not plugging into her.
Now, I am the one constantly worrying about why she has not plugged back into our marriage in this way. In every other way, everything seems to be okay, but when we are alone, I do not feel like she wants me anymore, and it makes me sad! She has a lot on her plate, and I'm trying to be patient and understanding, but I'm struggling with this U-turn in the road of our life. I love her more than anything, and need her always, but I am struggling with this change. Pray for me, that I may be patient, and understanding while she adjust to her knew schedule, and hopefully over a period of time, her love will grow strong for me again, and she will want me like she use too, and both of us will be plugged in, and our love will grow stronger than ever before!